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What kind of relationships does Gen Z want? Commitment anxiety strikes on Valentine’s Day

What kind of relationships does Gen Z want? Commitment anxiety strikes on Valentine’s Day

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Maja Kozłowska,
13.02.2024 15:00

Fidelity, good communication, trust, and excitement. Gen Z representatives know what they desire from romantic relationships.

The mindset of Generation Z is distinct from that of earlier generations, and this difference is evident in several aspects of their lives. Whether it's work, family, or romantic relationships, young individuals are more open and willing to explore their needs and desires. This openness may be attributed to the diversity of Gen Z, particularly in terms of sexual orientation and gender identity.

According to a recent survey, 28% of US Zoomers identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. This percentage is higher than that of Millennials (16%) and Baby Boomers (7%).

The Zoomers, being a highly diverse generation, are looking for both a long-term relationship based on solid foundations as well as fun, lack of commitment and experimentation.

Good communication is of utmost importance

It is crucial to emphasise that even though Generation Z is considered the most liberated generation and the age at which they initiate sexual activity is declining, young people do not engage in as many sexual encounters as commonly believed. Instead, they approach sex more consciously than previous generations. The number of teenage pregnancies is decreasing, indicating that young people are aware of the consequences and know how to use contraception effectively. Empowerment is essential for Gen Z, and they derive it from a sense of control over their lives.

"I have always considered my romantic relationship to be significant. I never enter a relationship if I have doubts about my feelings. I believe that taking small steps helped us to create a secure and nurturing environment for our love to grow. However, bigger and more daring steps can also be very stressful. What helped me get through these challenges was having conversations. I think that communication can increase confidence," says Oliwia from Poland.

"We have learned the importance of communicating with each other to resolve difficulties without getting too angry. It is also important to recognise that having different opinions is normal in some situations. We all have our own perspectives and approaches. After understanding this, dealing with problems became much easier," adds Modesta from Lithuania. She has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for six years.

"The traditional gifts of a teddy bear and a box of chocolates have been replaced with more meaningful gifts"
"The traditional gifts of a teddy bear and a box of chocolates have been replaced with more meaningful gifts" (canva)

What kind of relationships do Zoomers want?

Generation Z's approach to relationships is closely linked to their approach to individuality. Young people value their personal space and seek relationships where they can feel like they are part of a couple but not defined solely by it. Gen Z members are not afraid of being single and are willing to end even long-term relationships that are not working well.

"I am currently focusing on myself. Although I haven't found the right person yet, I am not worried about it. I believe that one day, he will show up in my life. Initially, I thought my fear of commitment stemmed from not wanting a relationship, but I realised I was more afraid of wasting my time with the wrong person. It is impossible to predict how someone will change in the future or how life together will turn out, and that is where my fear comes from. I fear that a seemingly perfect relationship may take a wrong turn or encounter unresolvable conflicts," admits Samanta from Lithuania, who recently ended a relationship with her first boyfriend.

"I have been in a serious relationship for almost three years now. This is my first long-term relationship, as I used to date casually, except for one high school sweetheart. Although I sometimes feel nostalgic about the past, my girlfriend and I are committed to developing our relationship in every way possible. We are open to experimenting and trying new things to keep our relationship strong. We have honest conversations about our feelings and needs, which has helped our relationship work," says Maja from Poland.

Kuba does not feel any fear of commitment either.

"I enjoy being in long-term relationships and have been in one for over nine years now. Some people might think that you would get tired of the other person after such a long time. However, this is not the case for us. Every year, we face new challenges that we overcome together, and as a result, we discover something new in each other. We do not feel fear but rather curiosity about what the next few years will bring. We are satisfied with what we have achieved so far," he admits.

Does Generation Z celebrate Valentine's Day?

According to the Romanian website PRO TV, some members of Generation Z are boycotting Valentine's Day. Although young people tend to spend a lot of money on this occasion, they now tend to spend most of it on themselves, turning Valentine's Day into a day dedicated to self-love rather than a romantic day for two.

However, this doesn't necessarily mean that Gen Z is giving up on celebrating Valentine's Day entirely. Instead, they have different plans for the day, deviating from the traditional date activities.

"The traditional gifts of a teddy bear and a box of chocolates have been replaced with more meaningful ones, such as new experiences, movie nights, or fun activities for couples. Additionally, single individuals plan activities with friends, exchange small and symbolic gifts, and spend the day surrounded by loved ones," reports Pro TV, emphasising that it is authenticity that matters to Gen Z. Young people do not easily succumb to the commercial pressures of Valentine's Day or any other holiday, the news outlet concludes.

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